Rude dating behavior and responses

15 Jan

The way you address rude behavior from your child might differ from the way other parents address rude behavior from their own children.

According to psychologist James Lehman (1946-2010) at Empoweringparents.com, the rude behaviors your child exhibits should be addressed according to their level of harm.

Learning how to respond calmly and compassionately to rudeness is a valuable skill, especially if you will be continually engaging with this person.

Rudeness can be difficult to navigate, but fortunately there are techniques you can use to disarm a rude person, protect yourself, and even repair the broken interaction.

Consider your child’s display of rude behavior and whether it is threatening, according to Lehman.

Enforce the consequences for your child’s rude behavior when it is considered a threatening or outright defiant, according to Lehman.

In “real life,” when someone approaches and asks you out, you’re obliged by social custom to reply. How can I be mean to someone who thinks I deserve that kind of effort?

You may not be interested, but you can’t just pretend that the person isn’t standing there talking to you. So we have developed all manner of ways of saying no thanks, in what is hopefully the kindest way possible. And a couple times, women I have written to actually have replied with nice no thank you messages. And – here’s the odd part – a little uncomfortable.

You’re heading somewhere on the interstate, minding your own business, when a car suddenly swerves into your lane inches ahead of you, barely missing your bumper but giving you plenty of time to fume about it―through the next three states.

Advice: If you’ve been cut off, “take a deep breath and let it go,” says Dini von Mueffling, coauthor of (, amazon.com).